A Little Bit About Me
Assalamualaikum,
I’m a 43 year old British Bangladeshi finance professional from London looking for marriage. I’m looking for a partner to form a deep connection with, to build a home and family with based on Islamic values, and live a life full of love and joy with, supporting and inspiring each other. I feel better placed now at this time of my life than ever before to hold up my end, to provide, to lead, to fulfil my responsibilities as a husband. I would like to meet someone who wants the same things from life. I am not looking for dating. I am not looking for perfection. I am serious about marriage and putting the effort into getting to know someone with a view to moving towards it in a matter of months rather than years.
I have not been married before. It’s difficult to explain why in a few words but I have come to believe this is how it was meant to be. I focused on my career, spending time with family and friends and enjoying time on my own. I am a natural introvert and with long hours at work and a full social life I welcomed the quiet of my own space, at peace in my own company. I did make efforts to meet and get to know potential partners. However, I was looking for something specific and I understand now what was holding me back.
Over many years I have been experiencing a gradual and profound change. I was born into a Muslim family but it’s only relatively recently that I have truly accepted Islam in my heart. I learned about my religion when I was younger, and read an English translation of the Qu’ran, but felt a sense of disconnect. I was searching for meaning and understanding, growing up in a liberal family and Bangladeshi community, in a middle class western environment with a diverse group of friends. I was not practicing and considered myself a cultural Muslim. However, I was very much engrained in the liberalism of modern society placing one’s self above customs and traditions. For a long time, I wanted to be with a partner who shared that outlook. Everybody’s experience with religion is a personal journey. Mine has been a long one of discovery and I’ve made mistakes along the way, however, I have never had such clarity as I do now in that Islam has to be the bedrock of my life and marriage. I feel Allah protected me from the wrong marital path.
With regards to religion, I do my 5 daily prayers, observe Ramadan, give to charity, keep a halal diet, and do not drink or smoke. Above all, I’ve found my meaning and love for Allah. Not because I was taught to, but truly from within with all my heart. I have much yet to learn.
I am a finance professional, qualified accountant and working in the banking industry for last 15+ years. I work hard though it’s easy for work to creep into evenings and weekends when single. I appreciate the need for balance and making time for the important people in my life. I am in a good place to provide for and support a family.
I have a calm temperament and dry sense of humour. I enjoy good conversation and good artistry. I’m a thoughtful person and somewhat of a dreamer (did the first lines of the profile give that away). I’d call myself a sociable introvert. I have a diverse range of interests and value maintaining relationships with family and friends while I re-energise through time on my own, be that on long walks, in the gym or reading a book. I am striving to live a healthier and active lifestyle. Inshallah, I will become a father so wellbeing and longevity are important to me. I’d consider myself a good communicator, emotionally intelligent and adept at conflict resolution.
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What I Am Looking For
I am looking for an Islamic minded lady ready for marriage. Someone who’ll help me continue to grow and learn. I appreciate that my journey with religion is not for everyone. I have a story to tell for the one who opens her heart to me.
I’m happy to connect with a divorcee but with respect I would prefer someone without children. I would like to meet someone who would like to start a family with me in the near future. I come from a small family with 1 sibling. I always thought two would be the ideal number of children. These days I’m thinking two would be the minimum! Perhaps it’s the thought of being an older dad, that more siblings the better for them later in their lives. The truth is, one child would be a blessing for Allah.
I do feel its important for my future wife to want to prioritise raising our child (ren) in their early years. Those formative years for the child are so influential and I would not want to burden elderly grandparents or hire a stranger. I would provide for us financially and support with the domestic duties. I have a young nephew and see how hard it is to parent! I have so much respect and appreciation for the job mothers with young children do.
My perspective has changed over the years moving away from liberalism towards more of a traditional mindset. I do believe men and women, husbands and wives, have different qualities which when pronounced and coupled with the fulfilment of duties and responsibilities of each lead to a stronger relationship. I value trust, honesty and loyalty. I would always support my wife and stand up for her in front of others, communicating any issues in private. I would listen to her and always take her views on board.
Communication is key to all great partnerships and marriage is the ultimate partnership. I have a lot of love to give and will always endeavour to look after my wife and family. I would want us to inspire each other to be the best people we can be, as partners and parents, and to the people around us.
I wanted to write a profile that provides some insight into who I am and what I’m looking for. If you’d like to know more, I look forward to hearing from you.
I wish for all on here to find what they are looking for.
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